We all crave to be loved by someone. To be chosen. Wanted. Seen. Understood. Adored. Protected.
But we forget that we are someone. We have the power to offer all that love and care to ourselves.
Self love should be the first love of your life.
Because truly, how can you expect anyone to really love you the way you want to be loved, if you don’t even offer that love to yourself?
Devoting time, care, and appreciation to yourself isn’t narcissistic. It’s actually you valuing yourself, setting standards, growing, and healing. We should never see love as something we have we become worthy of, prove, or earn. It’s our natural birthright to feel and have.
When you love yourself deeply, everyone else’s love becomes a bonus, not a necessity. You stop chasing toxic people. Begging for validation. And shrinking yourself to please your partner.
So fill your own cup first — and then let anyone else’s love be the overflow.
Tell yourself “I love you” whenever you look in the mirror.
Go buy yourself clothes or flowers just because.
Take yourself to your favorite scenic view.
Think positively of yourself.
Cook yourself meals and desserts.
Learn a new hobby.
Go to the movies alone.
Compliment yourself & be proud of yourself.
Work on your goals, not out of pressure, but for devotion to your dreams.
Appreciate the love someone put into your food (a friend, parent, or even an unknown food worker).
Dance in the mirror to music.
Watch something that makes your stomach hurt from laugher.
Date yourself—find out what you enjoy and give that to yourself.
Even when you look at couples, don’t perceive it as your lack. Feel gratitude for the extra love you’ll receive one day. Love isn’t your lifeline—it should feel like oxygen. It should feel like sunlight — beautiful, warm, and extra.
And remember,
You don’t have to wait to be chosen anymore.
Because you are chosen.
You are choosing yourself.
