Stop being so concerned with “do they like me?” and genuinely ask yourself, what do you even like about them?
Anyone can be cute or have a pretty face or make you laugh. Anyone can be part of your daily or weekly routine in life. But what are they bringing to the table? Ask yourself:
- What do I like about them?
- Are they honest and vulnerable with me?
- Are our values aligned?
- Do I feel seen and heard with them?
- Does our dynamic feel healthy?
- How do I feel with I’m with them? How do I feel when I’m without them?
- Do we want similar things in life?
- Are there any red flags that I’m overlooking?
- Am I proud to tell my friends and family about them?
- Do they love me proudly and loudly?
- When was the last time they surprised me just because they care?
- Do they only have eyes for me? Do I only have eyes for them?
- Does my confidence diminish when I’m with them?
- Can I picture a future with this person?
- Do I trust them?
- How do they talk about their former relationships? Is it out of respect?
- Do I feel like I can talk about anything with them?
- Are they my best friend? Is that an aspect I crave in my romantic relationship?
Stop wasting your own time if they aren’t putting as much care and effort into you.
Don’t settle for someone out of fear that you won’t find anyone better.
Remember that you are the prize.
